It’s high time to continue with my series of posts on homeschooling. In this post I’d like to talk about our journey to becoming a homeschooling family. In the last post I highlighted some of the options that might be available if you’re living overseas. For us we only have two options here: either sending the children to local school or homeschooling ourselves. I’m not saying that one is better than the other. There are some ex-pat families here who send their kids to local school, and some who homeschool. It’s a decision that each individual family has to make. I’m just describing how we decided that homeschooling would be best for our family.
Our journey started when we came across some friends in England who had decided to homeschool. Both were Christian families, and both had different reasons for chosing that path, but I was interested to know how they were thinking about going about it. They recommended reading “For the Children’s Sake” by Susan Schaeffer Macaulay, which is I think where the journey starts for many families homeschooling today! Both my husband and I read the book, and were really struck by the ideals represented there. Not only did we feel that homeschooling might be something positive and beneficial for our family, but we were also impressed by the educational methods of Charlotte Mason described in the book. As many of you probably know, Charlotte Mason was a British educator who lived about 100 years ago and developed a philosophy of education based on Biblical principles and her observations of children over her years of teaching and training new teachers.
I started reading more books and doing more research, mostly on the internet. The more I read and studied the more I felt that God was calling me to do this. The thought of homeschooling didn’t terrify me, like I know it does some people, partly because I am a teacher myself by profession….a maths teacher, to be precise, which seems to be the one subject that scares off potential homeschooling mothers the most! I had a bad experience in my former life as a teacher, which put me off teaching in mainstream schools and led to my change of career that eventually brought me here, but I had always loved the heart of teaching: imparting ideas and knowledge to children and the satisfaction that comes from seeing ‘light bulbs’ go off in their heads as they make connections and finally ‘get it’. Surely it couldn’t be too difficult teaching my own children! At least I would only have a class of 3 rather than 36 to manage!
We did investigate the local kindergarten. The main advantage of sending our children to local school would certainly have been the fact that they would become fluent in Russian much more easily and quickly. We liked the school very much. The teachers were ever so friendly. We expressed concern at the long day (in Russia children typically go to kindergarten from 8am to 4 or 5pm, having breakfast, lunch, afternoon nap and sometimes dinner there from as young as 2 years old) but they assured us that it would be fine if we wanted to take Sophie home at midday. They invited us to the ‘end of year performance’ which was an afternoon of dancing, singing and poetry recital by the children to wish the 6-7 year olds well as they went off to ‘proper’ school in September (Russian children start school at age 7). We were very impressed by the seriousness with which these small children undertook the dances, and at the bravery of even quite little ones taking the microphone and reciting a poem off by heart to a fairly large audience of parents and relatives. However, I remember my main thought being “Look at those outfits the little girls are wearing. We could never afford to deck Sophie and Charis out in one of those at the end of each year!”. Indeed, these little 6 and 7 year olds looked more ‘done up’ than I did on my wedding day! Their gowns must have cost a fortune, and it looked like they’d spent at least 2 hours in hair and makeup that morning.
I think it was the dresses that swung it for me, but there were other reasons too. In this culture there are a huge amount of hidden costs behind seeing your child through school education. Teachers get paid very little and so unfortunately it's quite normal to give 'extra monetary gifts' to ensure good marks.There’s also all the paperwork and red tape that would be involved, partly because we’re foreigners but also partly because that’s the system here, and I really hate that kind of thing. Finally, Sophie’s personality is such that we didn’t think she’d do well being thrust into that kind of environment at a young age.
And so, to cut a long story…well…not very short, we started planning on homeschooling. To be honest, the more we thought about it the more we thought that this is a route we may well have taken if we’d back in England. It just seemed to fit what God had in mind for our family.
In my next post I’ll talk about how to respond to local friends and neighbours when they ask why we choose to homeschool.
Abide in Him!